For the current generation, past relationships do not diminish a person’s desirability
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Kochi: Relationship baggage is no longer something to be embarrassed about, according to a new research, and recent trends in our own society seem to support these findings. An interesting study by Australian researchers published in the journal Human Nature has concluded that women prefer men with a history of ‘exes’. These researchers have found that a vast majority of women are more likely to adore and find a man more desirable if he has had one or two romantic relationships in the past, rather than none.
Actress and former Miss India Parvathy Omanakuttan couldn’t agree more with these findings. “A lot of men get cold feet the moment they realise that the woman in their life wants commitment and eventually end up never having a serious romantic relationship,” she says. “In such a scenario, most women would definitely find endearing a man who has been in a couple of serious relationships because it shows he is not afraid of commitment and capable of a stable alliance.”
Popular psychologist and socialite Dr Mini Rao explains, “Women look for consistency, stability, responsibility and fidelity in a man when they want to settle down for real. When a man has been in past ‘relationships’, it is an indication that he is capable of holding a long-term association. Past relationships are no longer seen as a baggage.”
What is significant is that the stigma attached to an earlier relationship is now a thing of the past. A divorcee is nearly as good as an eligible bachelor and gone are the days when the society was obsessed with virginity. In fact, if you are single at 30, then your friends may advise you to consult a counselor. Actress Isha Talwar says, “Honestly, these days I think both sexes are ready to adjust to each other’s past and also respect it. Also, it’s important to appreciate a person’s honesty when he or she openly admits to having been in past relationships.”
Most youngsters seem to go by the dictum that ‘past is dead’. As actress Adah Sharma puts it, “I feel desirability has very little to do with a man’s past and more to do with his current behaviour. It doesn’t matter what you did or where you were. All that matters is where you are and what you’re doing.”
( Source : deccan chronicle )
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