Your enemy is not mine

Mumbai: Shah Rukh Khan, despite his fallout with Salman Khan earlier, was invited for Arpita’s wedding and the former, without holding on to grudges, graciously attended the Mumbai functions. Salman too reciprocated with great warmth. Ranbir Kapoor, one hears, wasn’t on the guestlist but that didn’t stop his girlfriend Katrina Kaif from attending the wedding. She continues to share a great rapport with Salman Khan and his family, and she went for the wedding, without sulking over her beau not being invited.

Amitabh Bachchan may not have attended the wedding, but he and son Abhishek share a comfortable rapport with Salman regardless of the Ash-Salman fallout. And we have Hrithik Roshan’s bond with Sussanne Khan’s family though the two are now divorced.

Relationships today do not hold on to grudges and, importantly, nobody wants to take sides. To each his own it’s all about moving ahead.

After the much-publicised Hrithik and Sussanne divorce case, Sussanne’s brother Zayed Khan went on record to say, “I have lost a brother-in-law but gained a brother.”

“This is a very healthy change that is taking place in our society. This shows that even though a relationship between two individuals might not work out, it’s not necessary to harbour the anger. In the case of Zayed, he is an individual who shared an independent equation with Hrithik, he liked him because of a few qualities which continue to exist. This is an evolved picture of our society and we should be welcoming it. The fact that the family must break all ties after the couple break up is a very narrow-minded and old-fashioned approach,” says Dr Rajat Bhonsle, a psychotherapist.

And to not dwell in the past and let it ruin a current relationship is the mantra. Purnima Nagaraja, a consultant psychologist, says, “When a relationship between a couple breaks, the family members don’t have to let go of their relationships. You must keep the communication lines open. The choice is yours, whether you want to dwell upon a problematic relationship or step into a friendly zone.”