Let’s start over

When it comes to past relationships and ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, we are often struck by a sense of “what if” and the fact that it probably was a situation of meeting the right person, but at the wrong time. And Adele’s comeback number Hello has put these feelings in perspective. Since its release, a survey by a dating website has found that 64 per cent of women (about 41,000 men and women were polled) have contacted their exes to reconcile.

The Indian entertainment industry too has been advocating this bit about meeting the right person at the wrong time through various mediums. Relationship counsellor Dr Seema Hingorrany says, “Relationships not working out also depends upon your age and maturity, apart from several other factors. Often, you meet someone when you’re young but you don’t know how to navigate through the relationship.

Once you get older and become more confident about yourself, you’re ready to revisit the past. But you have to go about it with wisdom. You need to be aware about why you want to go back – Is it boredom? Mid-life crisis? Or some are just curious to know how their exes are doing in their lives. If you’re being clingy or looking for love, then it’s going off the tangent.”

Ekta Kapoor’s latest TV show Pyaar Ko Ho Jaane Do (PKHJD), has the family pitching in to make the much-married couple rediscover the spark in their relationship. Tanushree Dasgupta, creative director of Balaji Telefilms, says, “Ekta’s forte is mature love stories and we did it first with Bade Achhe Lagte Hain. For PYKHJD, she wanted to do something different but not completely out of the box that it doesn’t relate with the audience. So she came up with this beautiful concept that hadn’t been done before, with a family set-up. We didn’t treat it like it’s a love story of a married couple, its treatment is quite different.”

Even the film industry seems interested in exploring the “reconnect with your ex” angle. Director Rohit Shetty’s next film Dilwale has been given a slight twist to his regular masala fare by delving deeper into Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol’s characters, who reconnect after 15 years. Also, Rakesh Bedi’s latest play Mera Woh Matlab Nahi Tha explored the same. Bedi says, “Everyone has a first love, so I wanted to explore that emotion. That spark may lie low but it always stays in one’s psyche,” he says.

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