Cut the wedding drama!

Soon to be married couple, Rob Kardashian and Blac Chyna are finally learning how difficult planning a wedding can get. According to recent reports, Blac is having a tough time, with her to-be mother-in-law, Kris Jenner trying to take over the wedding. The report went on to state that Kris is drawing up the guest list, without consulting the couple. If this wasn’t enough, it is claimed that Kris is reportedly writing a list of “appropriate” fashion designers that Black could opt for, on her big day.

Back home, the scene is no different with planning the wedding often turning into family affairs. The preps leading to D-Day can be a major source of stress, and worse, you could start your relationship with your in-laws on a sour note. “There are bound to be stressful moments and situations, since we live in a set up where weddings are a big deal. You maybe the one getting married, but it is a huge change for everyone involved as well,” observes marriage counsellor, Dr Nisha Khanna.

Life coach Chetna Mehrotra says that it’s only natural for a family to be involved in the wedding ceremony, regardless of how “territorial” the bride feels about it. She says, “It’s not really your day. It’s a celebration of two families coming together. Be mindful of everyone’s sentiments. There will be times when your in-laws could  even drop unpleasant surprises or comments. One way to deal with this would be to let go of the unwelcome wedding planning comments. Let any unwarranted piece of advice slip away into oblivion.”

Chetna adds that the trick is to pick your wedding battles. “Get your in-laws involved, and let them take decisions that don’t matter to you. Understand your priorities and delegate the rest of the tasks. It could also help if you find an area of their expertise and allot a duty to them. This is a win-win situation for both parties.”

It helps to keep the partner in the loop about the wedding developments. Dr Nisha adds that however, it is best to exclude the partner if disagreements crop up between you and the to-be in-laws. Dr Nisha says, “Don’t expect him to deal with issues that you are facing with his  or her parents. Don’t put your fiancé in a spot where he or she will have to take sides. This may put a strain on your relationship with him too.”

Relationship expert Dr Kashish Chhabria says that the family paying for the wedding rightfully gets a say in important decisions. “It is only logical to let the host family take major decisions. Be prepared to accommodate their wishes. Most importantly, don’t set yourself and your in-laws on
different sides. You don’t want to offend anybody when you are starting a new phase in your life.”