Husband bashing is on rise in Uttar Pradesh

Lucknow: Women, as victims of domestic violence, are a common phenomenon. In Gonda district in Uttar Pradesh, it is now men who are ending up as victims of physical violence at the hands of their wives.   “We are receiving about ten complaints every month from married men who have faced physical abuse from their wives. These complaints are coming on the Dial 100 emergency service”, said a station officer, Radhey Shyam Maurya.

The police normally include these complaints in the domestic violence column and, hence, the fact that victims are now men is not being widely publicised. It is commonly believed that victims of domestic violence are only women. “It was only when we made a new column where complaints of men were registered that we realized that this trend is on the rise”, the police officer said. 

According to a senior police officer, men have been approaching the police with cases where the wives have mentally and physically tortured them. “But majority of them do not want to lodge FIRs because their own image would take a beating and they do not wish to be ridiculed by their peers. They request us to threaten their wives with dire consequences so that their suffering comes to an end”, he disclosed.

In Lucknow, the Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti has been set up mainly to deal with issues related to battered husband. “It is a misnomer that women are victims in families. The era of joint families is over and women are now financially independent. There is a strong pro-women bias in administration and police and men are reluctant to present themselves as victims. It is this that is leading to a rapid increase in male suicide cases”, said  Indu Subhash , who heads the Samiti.