Four years of marriage and his wife is yet to conceive. The reason is simple. Kiran hardly has any time for sex. As his career graph rose, his work load increased and he has no time for family life. “The doctors don’t understand this,” he thought. They prescribe the days on which he should have sex with his wife. How to manage this?
The modern day problem is time famine. Executives talk about craving sleep the way a starving person talks about food. Working couples have less time together which reduces the happiness and satisfaction of a marriage.
These couples often just don’t have enough time to talk to each other. When job, home and sex have to be attended to, it’s often the sex that is neglected. Couples of all ages and incomes are exhausted by the demands of modern life. And nothing could be less conducive to leisurely playfulness needed for romance.
We can’t avoid stress. We have to learn to manage it. The following guidelines will be useful to handle the stress.
Optimism: Learn to see the glass half full rather than half empty. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Control: Realise you cannot control everything. The past is past. Future is unpredictable. Hence, do not try to fix things that are broken beyond repair or yet to be broken.
Information: Knowledge can relieve stress or be a source of stress. Learn to use only relevant information.
Do you know the time honoured way to relax, rejuvenate, brighten your mood and forget your worries? Sex. It is the greatest stress buster of all!
The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com
