Relationships, whether professional or personal, add value to our lives. They can either be supportive and nurturing and help us succeed in life or can be toxic and damaging and teach us lessons for the future.
Nurturing these relationships take a lot of effort. Even though it may seem strong, they can be just as fragile at the same time. Thus, it is important to keep toxic habits at bay. Sometimes, things that may seem trivial have the power to break friendships. You may have been guilty of these yourself in the past or can probably recognise these behaviours from others around you, reported Inc.
Being self-centred
This is probably the most toxic as well as most common issue in relationships. You catch up with your friend to tell her about your incredible vacation and without fully listening to you, she starts talking about the amazing vacation she has planned for next month.
While many times it is unintentional, it can surely be toxic. It usually starts off as a short account to tell your friend that you can relate to his/her situation. But more often than not, it quickly escalates into something completely self-centric. Consciously try to avoid it as it may result in the other person harbouring resentment towards you for it. Remember to give helpful pointers when needed, but more importantly, lend a patient ear.
Giving in to jealous tendencies
Author Gore Vidal once said, “Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies." While none of us will openly admit it, most of can secretly relate to it. Its natural human tendency to feel jealous when the other person succeeds. But having control on that emotion is imperative. Feeling a little jealous is fine, but if you let that emotion overpower the happiness you feel for your friend’s success, it can spell disaster.
Make sure you let your friend know that you are happy for him/her and will be there to by their side, whether rain or shine. Suppress the negative emotions that you feel at the first instant for a lasting, nurturing relationship or friendship.
Being a complaint-box
We all face difficult times and it is always a boon to have someone to confide in. It makes us feel better and it’s great to know that there is somebody who will lend a patient ear to you. But it is important not to abuse the other person’s patience.
Once in a while, it is fine to vent out your frustrations and worries, but doing it regularly can put a great strain on your relationship. If all your conversations revolve around your woes, then your friend/partner may not appreciate the constant negative vibes and start moving away from you. Moreover, it is scientifically unhealthy to listen to constant complaints as it can affect brain function.
Not giving time to people that matter
Due to our busy lives, this is something we all have been guilty of at some point. No matter how busy you are, it is not impossible to make time for those important to you. You may have not seen or spoken to your friend in a while but make a point to take time out later on and reassure your friend that they are important in your life.
Even a simple text or a phone call can go a long way in strengthening a relationship. Friendships thrive on consistency and dependability. If you are not available to your friend when they need you, then it is a pointless relationship. A successful relationship entails giving as well as receiving. Make sure you are holding up your end of the bargain well.
