Talking about sex with your kids can be quite intriguing. Firstly, you don’t know how to initiate the conversation. Secondly, how to deal with the questions that will emerge your child’s curious minds. Thirdly, dominating fear of how they are going to respond to this natural phenomenon. The most tasking of them is when the right time to discuss it with your offspring.
Numerous discussions have taken place around this topic. Experts are of the opinion that right timing can make a significant difference. You sometimes don’t even plan and things just fall in place. Sometimes the revelation is disastrous when your kid bumps into your lovemaking session.
Whatever you choose to inform, the first thing that they should know is the importance and relevance of consent. Establishing this understanding will help in having control over their bodies and their lives. Lelo.com suggests a few ways to solve your dilemma.
Early childhood (3-6 years)
- It is important to use the right and basic terminologies that are friendly for the kid to understand. A lot of parents make their kids understand by saying – they do a “special dance”. It is also important to use the correct terms for various body parts so that it is easier for them to communicate.
- Tell your child that some body parts are private and not for others. It should be taught that they should not touch other body parts except for their own. Privacy has to be given utmost priority.
Middle years (7-12 years)
- By this age, kids start learning human anatomy. It becomes easier to explain the internal reproductive organs. Whatever you choose to explain, do it with confidence and things will be good to go.
- The relevance of hygiene has to be taught to them. Just like any other part of their body, their private part needs care and attention.
- Inform them as they grow older, a lot of psychological and physiological changes might take place. This is natural and they should not freak out, but accept it gracefully. It is important to explain to girls what menstrual cycle is so that they don’t freak out when it happens.
Teens (13+ years)
- Use banana and a condom and explain to your kids how the process works. This will not only help them understand how it is used but also the importance of safe sex. Educate them on as many birth controls as possible. Educate them on sexually transmitted diseases.
Give your child realistic feedback on sexual health and well-being. As much as we want to keep them away from the negatives, it is important to state things as they are. Being honest about things is the best way to handle any situation. Build trust and a comfort level with your child where they can walk up to you and discuss things.
