Yin & Yang: When a virgin has sex, does her vagina get damaged for life?

Q. Hello, I wanted to know if a girl is a virgin and she has sex for the first time, will her vagina stretch or become physically damaged for life? I was told by many women that it’s very painful. This question has been troubling me for years.

A. The vagina may be stretched during intercourse but it will regain its original shape soon after the act. It will not be damaged if the intercourse is done in a proper and gentle manner. If the penetration occurs after the vagina has been lubricated, then there will be no pain. Also, the woman has to be absolutely comfortable with the partner during sex.

Q. I have been married for past three months and working in a gulf country. I spend only 10 days in three months with my wife. My wife is a bank official and is stressed at the end of the day and therefore, communicates less about sex. When we have sex, she is wet but I can feel her pubic bone rubbing against my penis during intercourse which hurts a lot. We’ve tried various positions but I can still feel the bone. Am I doing something wrong or is my wife not excited fully?

A. You say that your wife is wet, which means she is sexually aroused. Regarding the feeling about touching a bone, you need to get your wife examined by a doctor. It’s difficult to assess without an examination. Probably you are better off doing sex in the rear entry (doggy) posture.