The Internet always throws up a strange trend or two once in a while and we have gotten accustomed to it. But now, the trend of ‘sologamy’ has emerged, and it is too bizarre, even for the internet! Apparently, people are now marrying themselves!
The one who started this trend, a self-styled Sologamist Erika Anderson was annoyed by the pressure to get married. So, she threw on a white gown, invited her close friends and family and married herself in a legally nonbinding way. Tweeple, of course, had to react to this. From tagging single friends, teasing them this is what they will end up doing, to calling this out as a farce, netizens had a lot to say. How is Chennai reacting to sologamy now?
Actress Sana Khan says, “It’s the most ridiculous thing I have heard of in a long time now. Generally, when asked about marriage and relationships, actors give a clichéd reply saying, ‘I’m married to my profession.’ But this is stretching it too far! It is understandable that it is not easy to find a soul mate. You can never find someone who is perfect for you, but accepting their flaws is the beauty of relationships.”
She called it out to be a fad, saying, “I understand being single and loving yourself, but this is a stupid trend which will die in a few days.”To Cary Edwards, VJ and emcee, the bigger picture was that there was still much ado about marriage in this day and age. “For starters, just the fact that the social pressure to get married made a woman get married to herself sounds loony for 2017. People fail to understand that marriage is not for everyone. Also, if this is a progressive feminist idea, then there are other feminists who also back archaic ideas like alimony.”
Although, Cary did find one advantage to the whole trend. “While sologamy sounds really stupid, the one upside to it is that your partner and you will always be on the same page and there won’t be any arguments at all!” he said, laughing. Dr. Mini Rao, psychologist explained, “The world and the people in it are just getting more bizarre by the day. Such a trend may have emerged out of many things. But this seems more like seeking negative attention. This is a way of showing they are very content with yourself whereas in reality, you are not. The very concept of a marriage is companionship, and the whole purpose is lost in sologamy.”
When asked if this would become a thing in India, she replies, “I don’t see this catching up in India because we are very society conscious, and we simply don’t have a penchant for drama like this.” Ambika Ankit Agarwal, wedding and event planner says that she would be excited to plan a ‘self-wedding’. “Well, I won’t lie. If I hadn’t been briefed about this before a client walked in my office, asking to be married to themself, I would be amused — because we are conditioned into believing as soon as we are born on how relationships and marriages are meant to be. But once I move over that initial jolt, I would treat this as my most interesting project ever! I would totally admire someone who is content being with themselves despite their past and just wants to spread joy to others through a celebration for his or her life.”
