Does happily-ever-after have to include wedding bells?

Love has long been the foundation of long-term relationships across cultures. But the modern world is seeing couples redefine commitment. Even as they embrace emotional commitment, they’re dodging the altar. The question that looms is, if love is still treasured, why does marriage feel like an outdated relic?

Dr Mona Gujra, chief psychologist at an emotional wellness platform, highlights the mounting reluctance of young people to marry. “The discomfort around marriage stems from a deeper societal shift. In the past, it meant financial security and social validation. But now, many of these benefits exist outside of marriage,” she tells us.

It’s all the more pronounced among young adults, who may still value marriage but hesitate to take the plunge. “Marriage ruins things,” claims Parikshaat Wadhwani, 36, owner of PW PR and Brand Consultancy, who has been in a committed long-distance relationship for over seven years. “I love that my relationship allows me space for my career. We’re still in the honeymoon phase because the distance keeps the longing alive. Marriage, on the other hand, imposes restrictions, responsibilities and societal guidelines. Love should be unconditional, not rule-bound,” Parikshaat adds.

“Love alone doesn’t guarantee long- term compatibility,” feels relationship expert, Hema Mishra, adding, “People worry that marriage might mean giving up their dreams or individuality. They’ve seen their parents endure lifeless marriages and don’t want to walk the same path.” For some, cohabitation or long- term partnerships offer the emotional connection of marriage without the legal ties.

Financial concerns also play a pivotal role. With rising living costs, economic instability, and the growing importance of financial autonomy, marriage is seen as an additional burden rather than a safety net.

“Many couples wonder whether they can afford the commitments that come with marriage,” according to a ‘Psychology Today’ study. “Love alone doesn’t cover rent or student loans.” Dr Rahul Chandhok, Senior Consultant and Head of Psychiatry, echoes this assessment: “Marriage is an emotional and economic decision. Rising financial pressures make many hesitant to enter a legally binding relationship. People no longer assume love is enough to shield them from financial stress.”

Also, for many, the fear of divorce is a deterrent. Rising divorce rates and painful breakups have led the younger generation to approach marriage with caution. “The emotional and financial toll of divorce is overwhelming,” says Dr. Chandhok. “Many believe that avoiding marriage keeps the relationship vibrant and sidesteps legal complications if they part ways.”