You're not alone in feeling alone: Study

If you think that everyone else has more friends than you, you are not alone. But believing this has a very real impact on your happiness. 

A new study has found that new university students consistenly think their peers have more friends and a better social life than them.

A new study from the University of British Columbia, Harvard Business School and Harvard Medical School has found that new university students consistently think their peers have more friends and spend more time socializing than they do. Even when that's untrue, simply believing so affected students' wellbeing and sense of belonging.

Lead author of the study, Ashley Whillians, assistant professor at Harvard Business School said to the Daily Mail, "Social media perpetuates the idea that other people are more social than you."

Whillians carried out the research while a PhD candidate at UBC, she added, "We know the size of your social networks has a significant effect on happiness and well-being, but our research shows that even mere beliefs you have about your peers' social networks has an impact on your happiness."

The research was carried out using data collected from a survey of 1,099 first-year students at UBC. Students were asked how many friends they had made and to estimate how many friends their peers had made since starting school in September.

The researchers found that over 48 per cent of students believed other students had made more close friends than they did. While 31 per cent believed the opposite.

A second survey involving 389 first year students found students who believed their peers had more friends at the beginning of the year reported lower levels of well-being.

When several months later, the students who thought their peers had moderately more friends than they did at the beginning of the year reportedly made more friends as compared to students who thought their peers had many more friends.

"We think students are motivated to make more friends if they think their peers only have one or two more friends than they do," said Whillans in the Daily Mail report. She added "But if they feel like the gap is too big, it's almost as if they give up and feel it isn't even worth trying."

Frances Chen, the study's senior author and assistant professor in the UBC department of psychology, said to the Daily Mail,"Since social activities, like eating or studying with others, tend to happen in cafes and libraries where they are easily seen, students might overestimate how much their peers are socializing because they don't see them eating and studying alone." 

The findings could help inform university initiatives to support students' transition to university life, possibly through an intervention to correct social misperceptions and promote friendship formation, said Chen in the same article.

More research is needed to determine whether the same pattern emerges among new immigrants, or people moving to a new city or starting a new job, said Chen.

"These feelings and perceptions are probably the strongest when people first enter a new social environment, but most of us probably experience them at some point in our lives," she said.