Upbringing task: Single parents as competent

HYDERABAD: A recent study compared the physical and emotional wellbeing of children brought up by single mothers and children brought up by two parents. It revealed that both sets of children were equally well-developed, and the parent-child relationships in both cases were similar. Medical experts note that studies conducted on children from broken homes tend to be skewed because the kids are usually victims of parental conflict. However, single mothers and single fathers try to ensure that their children have a wholesome upbringing.

Dr Diana Monterio, a psychologist and counsellor, said, “There has been consistent research regarding this topic, and the underlying point is that as long as a child’s emotional needs are met, either by a single parent or by two parents, the child’s development is not hindered. It is important for the child not to be ignored at a vulnerable age, and to be nurtured.”

Experts said that single parents often experience guilt and a desire to provide better for their children, which nudges them to spend more time with them. “Single parents spend more time with their children as opposed to families. In the latter case, we often see nannies taking care of the children or divided attention from the parents. Single parents have the burden of trying to fulfil the role of both parents, and therefore they tend to devote more attention to their children,” she said. According to the study, single mothers often have support systems which contribute to the upbringing of their kids.

Dr Jayachandran Nair, a psychologist, said, “In today’s times, children are exposed to many things and therefore a good support system is crucial for their upbringing. Although our society is yet to fully accept single parenthood, friends and families of single mothers are often at their beck and call, which makes a difference.” Mr Prakash K., a single parent, said, “As a single parent to a daughter, I find it difficult to talk to her about some issues related to puberty. I try to bridge the gap, and my sister is a huge support. It is nice to have friends and family with whom I can discuss problems, and with whom my daughter can also open up.”