Things we do for love

The world requires a more inclusive form of love. Research consistently supports the notion that children raised by same-sex parents often perform as well or better than those raised by opposite-sex parents, challenging traditional stereotypes and prejudices.

According to a report by Forbes, studies have shown that children of same-sex parents excel across various metrics such as academic performance and social skills, suggesting that the quality of parenting is more crucial than the gender of the parents. “Children raised by same-sex parents often have a more flexible and inclusive understanding of gender roles and identities,” the report notes, indicating that these children may grow up to be more open-minded and accepting of diversity.

LOVE AT THE CORE

Jayant Iyer, a queer parent and founder of Queer Nilayam, shares insights from his experience as an adoptive parent. “Our non-traditional parenting model demonstrates that effective parenting is not limited by physical proximity but is defined by the quality of the relationship and support provided. Our involvement reflects the evolving understanding of what constitutes a family and underscores the idea that love and support are the core of effective parenting, regardless of the family structure. I believe in ensuring equal legal rights for same-sex parents. Also, promoting acceptance through education and awareness. It’s very important to strengthen support networks for same-sex parents. And of course by increasing the positive media representation of same-sex families.”

Parenting has no gender

Sougata Basu, AVP of a fashion brand and a gay father highlights the egalitarian dynamics in same-sex households. “While same-sex households can be called as unconventional most surely they are as complete and as beautiful as the ‘conventional’ ones. From an emotional standpoint, there is hardly any difference. Irrespective of the sexuality of the parent, every parent wants to bring their children up with strong values, give them a good education and try to fulfil their wishes as best as they can. Parenting is quite genderless. There are occasional comments and some raised eyebrows here and there and we have a long distance to travel as a society in accepting diverse family structures but indeed, there is an increase in acceptance and we are moving in the right direction. People have started to understand that all that children need is a happy home and caring parents or guardians.”

Mayank Kalra, an IT consultant and partner of Sougata, points out the increasing acceptance of diverse family structures. “We believe every family built with love is equally beautiful and complete. There are diverse family structures that exist in our society today beyond the conventional ones. All of these families and households are equally lovely.”

Paucity of legal shelter

Patruni Chidananda Sastry, a queer parent and activist, underscores the challenges that remain constant despite the rise in integration. “There’s been a perennial lack of legal protections and social acceptance afforded to same-sex couples such as the right to same-sex marriage. The subject of parenting was a prominent and divisive point when considering rights like marriage, and remains so today. But the general message is the same. The sexual orientation and gender identity of parents are far less important to children’s outcomes and development as compared to what happens within families, such as the quality of parenting and family relationships.”

The transformation towards encompassing same-sex parenthood is evident, but continued efforts are necessary. “Legal recognition and societal acceptance are improving, but combating discrimination and promoting equality remains critical. Advocacy for equal rights, such as adoption rights, parental leave, and anti-discrimination laws, alongside public education about the benefits of same-sex parenting, can help reduce stigma. Schools, media, and community programs play significant roles in fostering a more inclusive society. As these efforts continue, the vision of a world where all family structures are valued and respected comes closer to reality,” concludes Shreya Sharma, lawyer and founder of Rest the Case.

Our non-traditional parenting model demonstrates that effective parenting is not limited by physical proximity but is defined by the quality of the relationship and support provided. — Jayant Iyer, queer parent

According to a report by Forbes, studies have shown that children of same-sex parents excel across various metrics such as academic performance and social skills, suggesting that the quality of parenting is more crucial than the gender of the parents.